VUCA: Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous.
This acronym best describes a teenager’s world today. Bombarded with information and expectations from all angles (society and social media), teenagers are left confused and overwhelmed. Living in an environment where one is constantly surrounded by high expectations from peers, parents, and teachers, kids can often feel lost. This causes them to lash out or close themselves off, turning to social media for comfort. Kids are often uncertain about what the future holds. One day they would feel on the cloud 9 and the next day they are doubting themselves. A few likes on the Insta can skyrocket their self-esteem and 1 negative comment can bring it crashing down. A person can be their best friend forever and at the drop of a hat might become their arch enemy.
This VUCA environment makes it hard for them to focus on what truly matters to them. In most cases, they lose sight of what is important to them.
In my one-on-one coaching sessions with teenagers, I use evidence-based strategies to refocus their attention and energy on what they truly want. I work with them to cut-the-clutter and set goals in different areas of their interest.
Some ways my Coaching sessions supports students improve their academics:
Examining and setting their academic goals and barriers to success: Students often hear words like work harder, work smart, have goals and then move towards it. While they understand the words, they do not understand the steps they need to take to reach the success they want to see in themselves. Creating realistic goals along with understanding of the factors creating hinderance enables them to shine academically.
Assess their personal strengths and needs: most effective students are those who understand their strengths and behaviour. These students are best able to develop strategies to meet and exceed the demands of their daily lives, their careers, and their families. An awareness and understanding of your natural talents will provide true insight into the core reasons behind your consistent successes.
Develop organised approach to learning and schoolwork: Pulling all nighter just before an assessment or a project is due, is not an efficient style of working. It might look like the student is working hard but they would not be producing their best quality work. Learning to organise schedules and manage time to balance homeworks, long term projects along with recreational activity is the key to developing executive function skills in the long run.
Some of the issues I have Coached Teenagers on are:
Choosing careers and subjects
Preparing for Interviews
Being effective Team Leaders
Becoming an Assertive Communicator
Moving from overthinking to focused thinking
Dealing with Anxieties
Improving Social Skills
Going from Negative to Positive Self talk
Managing Attention in the Mobile Era
Teenagers walk away from my sessions with:
Improved Confidence and Self Esteem
Developed Executive Function skills
Better relationships with family & friends
Improved problem-solving skills
A productive attitude & behaviour
How we go about it:
In a 3 way introductory session between teen-parent-coach, we determine the common goal and measurement of success of the coaching sessions.
Over the course of the Coaching program, I keep a close eye on each child’s progress by tracking the failure and success of the actions set for achieving short-term goals in benefit of the overarching long-term goal. This includes identifying what worked, what did not work and exploring the reasons for the same through various techniques.
Each session is followed by an update to the parents.
Mid-point review with parent and child to identify what needs to change and what is working well.
Comprehensive end of the sessions report.
GET SET GOAL
I am already doing a lot of things. Why do I need to do more?
I don’t think I can do it. I am just too busy.
Do you catch your adolescent saying this very often? This is the time and age when fear of failure and fear of being judged grips teenagers and holds them from exploring new areas of growth. This program moves them from “can't-do “ (fixed mindset) to “want-to-try” mindset (growth mindset).
In this program they will learn to:
Change from negative to positive thought patterns.
Identify areas of growth and new explorations.
Set SMART goals.
Create feasible action plan.
Skills they will gain:
Refined Planning skills
Heightened self awareness
Methodology 1-on-1 online
Number of sessions 6
Duration per session 45 minutes
Total cost $1500 HK